Are you good enough, clever enough, good looking enough? If you think not, would you consider your answer to be objective? Are you one of those people who has an inner critic that Satan would be jealous of? Well it’s time to see yourself as you really are; gifted, worthy and capable of anything you chose to be.
你是不是足夠優(yōu)秀、足夠聰明、足夠美貌呢?如果覺得不是，你能否給出比較客觀的回答?你是不是內(nèi)心深處也有著色厲內(nèi)荏的自責(zé)?好吧，那你該真正認(rèn)識自己，做回那個渴望成為的聰明優(yōu)秀而又能干的你了!
Time to put an end to yourself criticism and look at yourself objectively.
是時候停止自我批評、客觀看待自己啦。
Follow these 7 steps below and you will be lacking in confidence no more.
試試下面7個方法，你會一直自信滿滿!
1. Monitor the Negative Voice
留神消極聲音
Start by monitoring your negative voice. Notice when you are self-critical, and observe the conversations that go on in your head. When you become aware of the conversations, you can then work on changing them. Your job is to ensure that the voice in your head is positive and supportive at all times and not negative and critical.
首先請留神自己的消極聲音吧。看看自己什么時候會自責(zé)，并且當(dāng)時心里是怎么想的。一旦弄明白當(dāng)時的想法，你便能作出改正了。你要確保自己隨時都能保持積極有益的想法，而不再消極自責(zé)。
2. Friends & Family
親朋好友
Ask your family and friends for their honest opinions about what your strengths are. What do they think you are good at? What were you good at when you were a child? If you want an extensive review, write out a checklist, and ask them what they think of you in the listed areas. Ask a couple of people and then you can see if the opinions are similar—just make sure the person you ask is not someone who is jealous of you or would have any reason to hurt or offend you.
請親朋好友如實評判你的優(yōu)點：他們認(rèn)為你擅長什么?小時候你又最擅長什么?你要是想深刻反思，可以列出一張清單，針對列出的條目征詢親友對你的評價。多問幾個人你才能找出方向一致的答案——當(dāng)然，那些嫉妒你或有可能傷害侵犯你的人就不必去問了。
3. No Comparisons
不攀比
Don’t compare yourself with others—it’s a recipe for disaster. You only need to be good enough for you, so it doesn’t matter what you sister, brother, friend or enemy has achieved. Make your own standards and set goals that are right for you.
別將自己跟他人作比較——這只會自取煩惱。你只需做最好的自己，根本不用管你的姐妹兄弟、朋友對手如何成功。你得有自己的準(zhǔn)則，只選取適合自己的目標(biāo)。
4. Journalling
寫日志
Take a long look at yourself and write a page describing yourself. Journalling can be a great way to look at yourself objectively. Tell your story like it belongs to someone else. What do you honestly think you are good at? Nobody has to see what you write, just write for you. Write down all of your past achievements—start with last year and write about anything that went well, and then extend the list year by year, making sure you include all of your achievements.
認(rèn)真反思自己，寫下對自己的評價吧。寫日志就是客觀評價自己的好方法。試著以局外的眼光審視自己：坦誠而言，你覺得自己擅長什么?你的所思所寫不為任何外人，而只為你自己。寫下過去你所取得的所有成就——從去年開始寫起，寫下一切順心的事情，然后逐年追溯，直到寫完所有成就為止。
5. Personality Assessment
性格測試
Do a Personality assessment, like the Myers Briggs or DISK personality profile quizzes. These assessments are a great way to understand yourself and to see how you fit in in the world; your personal strengths will become more apparent when you are familiar with your own personality.
做個性格測試吧，比如Myers Briggs或DISK性格小測驗。這些測試有助于你了解自己并更好地融入生活。當(dāng)你了解自己的性格時，個人優(yōu)點也便更為突顯。
6. Create a Positive Environment
營造積極環(huán)境
Make sure that you surround yourself with people who love and support you. If criticism is coming from external sources, remove yourself from the environments that encourage negativity. If you don’t have any friends or family members who inspire and uplift you, join a community that will. There are many groups, both online and offline, that have been formed to encourage people towards a happier and positive life; join one.
確保你周圍的人都能關(guān)愛支持你。如果有外界批評侵?jǐn)_，那就離開那個消極的環(huán)境。如果你的親人或朋友都不曾鼓勵或支持過你，那就加入能支持你的團(tuán)隊吧。不論是網(wǎng)上還是現(xiàn)實中都有很多鼓勵人們積極快樂生活的組織，加入他們唄。
7. Drown Yourself in Positivity
讓周圍充滿積極
Create affirmations that uplift you. Post positive messages to yourself all over your house and work, and every time you say something negative to yourself, replace it with positive thoughts or words. The most important thing to remember is that you are in control of your thoughts. Any past negative patterns can be broken but you must fill the void with positive supportive thoughts and words. Remember that it’s important to be happy with who you, are and to achieve things in life that are right for you. So get a bit of perspective, look at yourself objectively and learn how to be happy with who you are.
給自己以積極的肯定吧。你可以在房間或辦公室貼上積極的便條，每次消極情緒來襲時就想想那些積極的思維或言語。千萬別忘了：你就是自己思維的主宰!任何過去的消極模式都可以被打破，都能換成積極有益的思維或言語。能欣然接受真正的自己并為恰當(dāng)?shù)哪繕?biāo)而奮斗非常重要。所以，請換個角度客觀審視自己，學(xué)會愉快接納自己吧!
