learning how to receive the love and support that came my way wasn’t easy. friends cooked for me and i cried because i couldn’t even help them set the table. "i’m not usually this lazy," i wailed. finally, my friend kathy sat down with me and said, "mary, cooking for you is not a chore. i love you and i want to do it. it makes me feel good to be able to do something for you."

學習怎樣接受別人的愛和幫助并不簡單。朋友們為我做飯，我哭了，因為我甚至不能幫他們擺餐具。“我通常不是這樣懶惰的”我哀泣道。后來，我朋友kathy坐在我旁邊，安慰我說：“mary，為你做飯并不是個負擔。我愛你，我很愿意為你做飯，能夠幫上忙讓我感覺很好。”

over and over, i heard similar sentiments from the people who supported me during those dark days. one very wise man told me, "you are not doing nothing. being fully open to your grief may be the hardest work you will ever do."

那些幫助我度過人生中的黑暗時刻的人們，一次又一次的用充滿感情的話來安慰我。一個很睿智的人告訴過我：“你并不是無所事事，完全的無保留的直面痛苦，可能是最難做的事。”